Women today make their own money. We don’t need men; we desire men. Read just a sample of the erotica in the book and you’ll wish your man grabbed your wrists and kissed you as passionately as Anastasia describes her first kiss with her handsome billionaire.
Any book that is referred to as “mommy porn” can’t be an entirely bad thing if it’s getting women juicy goosey and revved up to clear the pipes.
It’s not just about sex
Fifty Shades of Grey isn’t about hot sex alone. Anastasia’s exploration of Christian’s past helps him heal and his love for her inspires him to want to work on his issues and change for her. She stands her ground and sets boundaries that she does not budge on despite Christian’s role as a manipulative, dominant man who is used to getting whatever he wants. It paves the course for her to get the real man and the relationship she wants, including the promise of marriage and children. She doesn’t have to sign the contract to get the man — Christian can’t resist her.
It’s about being honest with yourself
Anastasia also knew when to let go of something that wasn’t working for her, which every woman needs to be able to admit. She had no issue speaking up about her needs, forcing Christian to change his ways for her — not the other way around. Stay true to yourself and what you want!
Okay so it’s about sex, too
The book’s graphic details and description of sex reminds us all that the mix of man and woman is hot and that includes what’s going on between you and your guy, not just what you read in fiction. When Christian pins Ana against the elevator and they spend their first night together, it’s hot! Don’t deny it! Nothing’s sexier for a relationship than to be a little hot when your man gets home, so keep reading.
Let your imagination and fantasies wander next time the two of you get in bed. BDSM doesn’t have to be your thing, but you might be inspired to experiment with something new after reading this book. Your man will love the surprise in the sack, though ask before you flog.
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Patti, would you say the new movie Magic Mike can also be good for a relationship? I saw the movie (and read Fifty Shades) and I absolutely loved them both. But I’m seeing women blogging and posting about how women should have “more class” than to be attracted to hot bodies shaking it on a dance floor, and we should be more turned on by a “good person.” Seems like they are trying to send women on a guilt trip. My guy is a great person (and smoking hot), but he has absolutely no problems with my interest in this stuff. He encourages it actually, given the aftermath. So I don’t think I should feel guilty for being turned on by it…? Thoughts?!