It’s official. We have moved from the ancient age of meeting people at a bar, club, place of worship, through friends, etc. to the new age of finding love online — both on dating websites and on social networks. We are a perfect example of the social network part of this trend — we met on the social network that started it all: Myspace.
Now there are about a zillion other social network platforms out there, like Facebook and Twitter, where not only can you let all your friends and family know when you are going to the bathroom, but you can actually meet your soon-to-be wife or husband too! It has never been an easier world to find your mate than the one we live in now.
As for internet dating websites — there are so many different sites for all walks of life! Most are really easy to use (look out for an upcoming blog on picking the right site for you), and there are so many people doing it — don’t be one of the ones that fear it. The key is doing it right! Here’s our take on how to date on the net without getting trapped in one.
Don’t be a “fakester”
How many times have you found a hot guy or girl’s profile online and then met them in the flesh and… YIKES! Look for profiles that are the real deal. Yes, we know it’s not that simple — as anyone can be anyone on the computer. But ask for recent photos of them on the spot, or set up a Skype date so you can see them. This goes for you as well! Post CURRENT photos of yourself, not photos from 20 years ago and 20 pounds lighter. Be real to get real.
Leave the duck for the pond
Speaking of photos, for the love of Daffy please no more “Duck Face” photos or inappropriate photos of you half-naked lying in your bed. Don’t post photos of you looking in a mirror. Is it that hard to get a friend to take a decent photo of you? Look your best to get the best. Guys, we don’t want to see you with your “Bros,” and girls, we don’t want to see you posing with your cats. Simple, happy, normal photos. Save the drunken-night-in-Vegas photos for your scrapbook.
It’s all in the words
Now then, what to say about yourself? How about the TRUTH! Talk about what you love in life, what your goals are, what you REALLY want in a mate. Don’t talk about who got dumped on The Bachelor, how high the price of gas is these days or your ex! Look for profiles that are like yours. Write about your hobbies and interests so they come up as key words for others like you.
These are just the basics to get you going in the right direction for finding love WWW style. Always be safe when meeting someone, and just know that sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads to find your prince.
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-Muah! XOXO!
Rachel or Destin, I love your show. I was watching on Sunday, Feb. 10 and i saw where Denise Richards dad, Erb. I think I would be perfect for him. If you go to the salon website you can see my picture Mary. I have rental properties, manage a upscale salon full time. I workout take care of myself and i’m blonde. I also lost my husband to cancer in 2010. I have only dated 1 guy since then that didn’t work out. I’m fun loving, but have a little edge. I have 4 kids and grandkids and i love children and i’m great with them. I’m 55 but i don’t look it. What do you think? If he is not seeing anyone would love the opportunity to meet him. And i can relocate. Thank you for listening. Mary Bowe
Ok so I’m thinking that helping people re-write their profile could be big business since clearly a lot of guys don’t understand women (and vice versa). I’d pay a few bucks for someone to check mine over!
My boyfriend has told me that he loves me but i’m not giving him his space to be a man – and things are moving too fast and he needs me to relax because he loves me and he’s not going anywhere and doesn’t want anyone else. He told me that I love to hard and I’m a little clingy and he knows that I really love him and that I love to hard because of my background as a child. My cycle is late and he stated at first he was happy and now he wants me to have an abortion if I’m pregnant and we can have kids later when we are better and have grown in our relationship. Last night he stated that he needed a 2 week break and he would call me on April 2nd and for me to take this time for us to miss each other. We’ve been dating for 4 months and he is 42 and has never been married and doesn’t have any kids – I’m 44 divorced for 5 years with a 24 year old married daughter, a 21 year old daughter in college and my 16 year old son lives with me. I’m sooooooo hurt and I’ve cried for 2 days and I’ve taking 2 weeks off at work because I can’t function with the type of job that I have under this stress of not knowing what I did wrong… I don’t understand the space because we only saw each other twice a week and sometimes once,… HELP !!!!! what do I do or say on April 2nd when he calls or if he calls? and his birthday is April 5th – how do you start the conversation and pick up after 2 weeks ???
I replied to the article about finding love after 40, and I also wrote to both of you. I dont see my posts so now im a wreck because I dont want my friends and family thinking I cant come to them but they are not helping at all. HELP! PLEASE:) 4/13/13