This was a hot topic when I appeared on Dr. Drew recently. Sex is a crucial part of any successful romantic relationship… even as you get older. But here’s the thing about sex — it requires two people. I know, duh. It can become an issue though. The two of you won’t always be in the mood at the same time. That’s fine — it happens. But if it’s starting to feel like your moods never match up or you’re way friskier than your guy, that can get frustrating in more ways than one. There are a few things you can do to address the situation appropriately. Hint: Cheating is not the answer!
Talk to him
Let your honey know how you’re feeling. There’s a chance he doesn’t realize that he’s not satisfying you. We all get busy and distracted, and he could just be going through a phase when he’s not focusing on sex. A little point in the right direction from you could get him back on track.
Get him checked out
If this is a sudden change in his sex drive or even a gradual but noticeable decline, ask your man to see a doctor. It could be a sign of decreased testosterone levels or something more serious, like cardiac problems. Of course, this conversation is not going to be sexy, but it’s definitely worthwhile. Your man might just need a quick tune-up and you two will be back to bunny sex in no time.
Play hard to get
If you’ve been coming on to your man in a big way and he’s not responding, try swinging in the other direction. Play a little hard to get. He could be just sensing this aggressive sexual energy from you and getting subconsciously turned off. A little chase, even if you’re in a serious, committed relationship, could really spice things up.
Speaking of spicing things up, why not try something a little different in your sex lives? His decreased interest in sex could actually be boredom. Try to seduce your man. Open the door in lingerie. Buy some sex toys. Send him a naughty picture. Try doing something a little out of the norm and see if the diversity peaks his interest… and his pants!
Love thyself… and thy hand
None of the above is a silver bullet solution. Even if one of them does work, it won’t be instantly. It will take a little time to get you back to a sexin’ groove that feels right to you. So, in the meantime, I say get to know yourself intimately. You’ll be satisfying your needs and getting to know what you like better. When you two are back in the swing, you can tell him exactly what you want. After all, practice makes perfect, right?