I recently got asked if I thought a no-sex-for-30-days challenge could help a hurting relationship. My answer was, “Um, WHAAAT?” Seriously, is that a thing? People are purposely trying to avoid sex with their partners for a full month because they think it will improve their relationships? While this might help some couples, I fear that it could also serious hurt the relationships of other couples. So instead of entertaining this question with a long answer, I’m going to give you guys some ideas about the flip side on what else you could do every day for 30 days that could really strengthen your relationship.
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So you had a one-night stand. Good for you, girl. Consider this your virtual high five. I know, you might be surprised hearing me say that because I’m the captain of the no-sex-until-monogamy team. That rule only applies if you’re looking for a relationship. If you’re out to get yours, I’m fully in support of that… as long as you’re safe. But if you’re reading this, it probably means that you had a one-night stand and now you’re feeling icky about it. That happens sometimes. Something that’s a great idea at night can look a whole lot less great in the morning light. If you have the post-one-night-stand icks, here’s how to recover.
You met a guy and took him home and, well, you know… one thing led to another. No biggie. It’s just a fling. Every single woman needs to let loose once in a while, and if it comes from a fling or a one-time thing, that’s your choice. But if you’re starting to think this fling could be the real thing, that’s when it starts to get sticky. It’s a tough transition from a fling to a long-term romance because you led with sex, but it can happen. Here are my tips.
What are you wearing right now? Is it a pair of white grannie panties? There’s no shame in a comfortable pair of briefs. Any woman would be lying if she said she didn’t enjoy some nice, cotton, full-coverage undies. But that can’t be all you have in your underwear drawer. You need to mix it up a bit. A few key pieces of smoking hot lingerie can make you feel like the sexy goddess that you are and will keep your man guessing and super excited about your love life. Here are a few lingerie pieces that might seem a little risque, but pushing your lacy limits will totally be worthwhile once you see the effect on your sex life!
A girlfriend of mine recently came to brunch horrified. She told me that the night before, during sex, her boyfriend asked her if she had any lube. As she told me the story, I could tell she was upset, but I couldn’t figure out why. “I mean, me? Lube? Come on! Like I’m the type of girl to have that,” she shrieked. Apparently, my friend thought lube was gross and, she told me later, unsafe. I’m not sure where she got that idea, but I thought I’d write about it here, just in case this is what a lot of women think.
What’s the perfect number? SeekingArrangement.com recently came out with a study saying that 10 is the magic number. Per this study, both men and women want their partner to have slept with 10 other people before them. Any more would be considered promiscuous, and any less would seem inexperienced. I’m not quite sure I’m sold on this number. And even though I recognize that sex is a huge deal in a relationship, I’m not convinced that the number of people you’ve slept with previously should have any bearing on your current relationship. Here’s what I think.